Since I don't think we can really control (all that well) what happens at daycare and I think it's better to institute as the "norm" for her at home (and also, really? am I going to force her to deal with Maddie's righteous indignition when she sees the other kiddies drinking juice and she's getting water? um, not fair) - we've cut out the juice.
Not giving in.
So it's water or milk. Milk or water. Take your pick. We'll even put in some ice cubes. But yeah - no juice for you!
She's okay with it. So far.
Meaning - we've been doing it for 2 days, during the week, and she's only whined a bit.
Oh the weekend is going to be nasty...
Thanks to all for the comments and advice - 'twas appreciated - even those judging me for still giving my daughter a bottle before bed... um, yeah...